Being realistic with love

Sometimes you have to accept that things are not as you were wishing to be, actually, they never are. It is funny to see how much of us we put in a relationship even when it is just the very little begining of it. In my particular case, I could say like the song..the day that we first met...wasn´t looking for what I found but I found you and I´m bound to find happiness in being around you...

But one thing was missing...the realistic part. Not everything depends on me at least not in relationships, they are some other factors involve quite important too. The only thing you can do is to be coherent with yourself and  be true to your feelings, the rest is uncertain. I guess that´s the bittersweet of life. 

At the end, I think love just can grow if we are giving us a chance and taking the risk...by saying...who knows;) but here it comes the realistic part...if you want to plant roses, don´t do it in low winter temperatures;)

Let it flow;)

To be playful

Do you remember when you were a little kid and how you were enjoying to play?? It was great, wasn´t it??

Well, I guess in some moment in life we start to become more serious and less playful. I think most people would feel much better if they change their serious way of acting and start to be more playful. Could you imagine life if people around you are having fun and inviting you to  be and feel playful?? In my case, just to think about it makes me smile. 

I have to confess that being an adult can be so boring if you don´t let  this little glow from your inner child show. When we have children around if it quite easy to "re-connect" with our inner child becoming children again but to some people it is even uncomfortable or so dificult because they are so into their "growing up world". So they are missing the best in life...to play. Actually, life is a game and it is so much better if you enjoy to play. Sometimes we will win and sometimes we will lose, that´s how the game works. Also by playing we did learn a lot of things it was a need in our childhood. Why did forget about the gains of playing?? We could learn so many things if we keep playing. We can learn a lot from other people, just watching them how they play. So people, I encourage you to be more playful in your everyday life. The key...it is what our parents used to say to us when we were playing....The most important thing is not to win but to participate. And if you let me to change the sentence just a tiny bit...the most important thing is your positive and playful attitude while your are in the game, not winning or losing it;)

Let it flow;)

Fear of intimacy

Fear of intimacy involves the reluctance to open up and reveal your true self, perhaps because you've been hurt in the past. Or, if you grew up in an emotionally and socially closed environment and never learned how to be vulnerable to either friends or lovers, you may have a hard time opening up now. This is fear of intimacy.

Well, I never thought that I was going to say that but....people, I have to admit that I feel this kind of fear. Actually, it is just a very recent discovery that makes me feel a bit dizzy,so many questions, thoughts, mix of feelings in my head at the same time. I am not used to feel this way. It is like fear is the one which takes control of me and don´t let me say what I want to say. The words just get stuck in my mind and can not get out of my mouth, it is like mmm...if I am opening the door....what would happen, it is like wanting to have everything under control, safe. I was thinking that this is not so good but...I started to re-think and...I guess to be aware of it, it is a chance for me to solve this new challenge. I don´t have anything to lose, just to gain. I know it is not gonna be any easier but I will do my best. And
maybe you would wonder... why she discovered this fear now (or maybe not;). Well, if you do, here you got my double answer...I found a person who deserves to have the best of me and I want to give it to him, plus I think everyday I am getting to know and connect with myself better. Well, He is the kind of person who makes you feel better and I would love to be able to tell him face to face while I look at his eyes  "I´m good all by myself. But baby you, you make me better" like Ne-yo´s song. Mmm...this day will be one of my best ones:)

Let it flow;)